Don’t Take His Need for Alone Time Personally

Don’t Take His Need for Alone Time Personally

And this doesn’t just apply to casual dating or the beginning of a relationship. When you’re well into a relationship like me, you’ll still have to make the first move in other ways. For example, you’ll probably find yourself reaching out to your introvert for affection far more often than he reaches out to you. Don’t let yourself get too upset about it. That’s just how introverts are.

Try not to be too hurt by this. It has nothing to do with you (well – unless you’re mistreating him or the relationship is unhealthy). It’s just part of his personality.

Think about it this way. Just like you need to be around people to re-charge your mental batteries, he needs to be alone to re-charge his mental batteries. Neither way is wrong. Just different.

Sometimes, there is a fine line between introverted-ness and neglectfulness, so make sure you’re with someone who has your best interests at heart – someone who will happily show you the attention you deserve if you let him know you need it.

Create a Conflict Resolution Plan

Most introverts I’ve dated have been pretty conflict-avoidant. They’d rather go for a day or two without speaking than deal with a difficult fight that lasts for 30 minutes and move on.

In fact, Sophia Dembling, an author who writes about introversion, asked more than 50 introverts how they deal with conflict, and most said that they tended to shut down.

While I don’t seek out conflict, I do tend to take a more… Read More